These days I often feel like a broken record of positivity, gratitude, and joy. It can be sickeningly nauseating even for me! I never thought growing up would be so much fun. The life tools I am acquiring and honing blow my mind. It’s a beautiful journey. Some of the tools that help me:
Turn off KF*CK radio
KF*CK radio is the thoughts that swim round and round in my head. “Does he like me? Does he not like me? Will this happen or that happen, should I do this or that, what did s/he mean by this or that, how will I possibly manage this or that, blah blah blah,” ad nauseum. When that radio station kicks up, I have to actively turn it down.
I’ve adopted three questions to ask myself throughout the day. They guide my decisions and keep me sane.
- What’s the next indicated action?
It’s simple. What’s next? Brush my teeth. Make my bed. Make coffee. Drive to the place. Get dressed. Do the task. Whatever it is, if I ask myself “what’s the next indicated action?” and then I do it.–Keeping it simple like this brings me peace and sanity.
- What’s the most loving choice for myself?
This comes in handy for me, and it’s often a different answer depending on the circumstances of each day. Between the gym and a nap, what’s the most loving choice for myself? Well, some days the answer is “nap” and other days it’s “gym.” Between a bagel and oatmeal, some days it’s “bagel” and others it’s “oatmeal.” But asking the question always seems to help.
- How can I be of service?
This gem of a question has done wonders for my sanity and joy. It’s shifted my paradigm from “me, me, me.” From “How can I make all my dreams come true?” “How can I get this and that and make this happen?” to– “How can I be of service to my friend right now?” “How can I be of service to my fellows and colleagues?” “How can I serve my job today?” And when it comes to my acting career and producing jobs — “How can I best serve the script?” “How can I best serve the filmmakers? the production? the story? the characters?”
It changes everything for me. It’s no longer about “How can I book it?” “How can I make them like me?” and instead approached from a “How can I help?” perspective. Often that means I prepare as best I can, suit up, show up, and let go of the results.